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The Hidden Gift?

I’m back now from my vacation in Alaska and California, where I experienced deep JOY — and also complete CONFUSION.

There was JOY in being with my dear Alaskan sister Coowe (left), who I love and miss very much.

And JOY in going on a 5 hour horseback expedition with her — even though I hadn’t ridden a horse since I was 12 (and I was scared of horses Pamela on horseback in Alaskathen).  This time it was exhilarating to canter across the tidal flats!

There was JOY too in savoring fresh California peaches, watching the fog roll into San Francisco Bay, and connecting with heart friends and family I hadn’t seen in ages.

I even found JOY trying to sleep on an air mattress that kept collapsing!  (Eventually you just have to giggle and accept sleeping on the floor…)

However I found it much harder to accept the profound CONFUSION I felt talking to 2 estranged sisters.

Sister A told me that Sister B rejected her and stopped talking to her over some slights from childhood. Sounded plausible enough….

Then Sister B told me Sister A wasn’t normal and wouldn’t communicate no matter how hard Sister B tried. Sister B really seemed really believable — but her account contained shocking revelations.

My head swam:  How can this be??  It goes against everything I’ve been told… But my gut feels she’s right…
The cognitive dissonance was so strong I literally couldn’t think

And it reminded me of 2 earlier experiences where I’d been stunned by new information that called into doubt everything I’d believed (and wanted to believe)…

Then on my first day back home, IT HAPPENED AGAIN!  

 I experienced the exact same mental CONFUSION — “How can this be??” — when someone at my bank confidently gave me wrong information about a disputed bill.  Panicked, I acted on it, only to discover later that there was a completely different (and more plausible) interpretation of the facts.

I felt quite chagrined. “OK, what’s going on…” I wondered.

(Could it had something to do with wanting to see only the positive in people and trust them?  And my impatience and impulsiveness?)

I decided I’d better ask myself a powerful question:

“What is the hidden GIFT or lesson here?”

If you have any ‘negative’ patterns of your own, this question is great to work with.

And what I uncovered was so unexpectedly beautiful,  I want to share it with you:

Direct from my private journal

Notes: “TG” = “Trusted Guidance,” what I call my soul’s voice in me. “Alignment” = process to quickly create deep & lasting change on a subconscious level.

Pamela Moss PamelaCan you tell me about the lessons & gifts from these 2 experiences?

soul guide symbol by Pamela Moss TG:  Of course. You already intuit the lesson/gift: as you step into deeper trust and connection, it must be balanced with deeper discernment & appropriate boundaries. You cannot serve at a higher level without this. In the bigger picture, everything is about balance and right order.

P: Great. So is the best way to get this discernment to do an alignment?

TG: Are you open and willing now to be discerning and to set appropriate boundaries — by checking in with your own guidance system?

P. Yes, I’m finally ready & willing, for the first time in my life, I think.

TG: Then you may do the deep magic [= alignment]. Do it now.

P: OK!  [joyous]

P: My Goal/belief statement:  I now claim my powers of discernment to see warning signs & inconsistencies in others’ behavior and communication. My heart is open, & so are my eyes, & my third eye — I now have the clarity & will to set appropriate boundaries & to speak to the hidden lie, as an expression of divine love & personal power. I am an adult & can & do take care of myself.

[I select an alignment called “Sacred Object”, where you look around to see an object that stands out to you: it has a message for you. You look at it until you receive/intuit/imagine the message.]

What immediately jumps out at me is a lamp without a shade, just a bare energy-efficient bulb. It is very bright.

As I gaze at it I see it has 2 coils, and is too bright to look at easily, just a bright blob. But as I keep looking I realize: “I CAN discern the details, more and more, the more I look.”

I get the message: “You are like this coil and this lamp.”

The more I look, the more clearly I can see the details of the coil, and also the distinct aura around it.  The after-image creates a blind spot before my eyes — but I can see through it, too, as I write. The lamp base is tall and curvy. This lamp is shining brightly, a beacon. And it stands alone.

I get the message: “I have learned my lesson from Brian [my husband, a quite discerning & cautious man]. I have received the gift from him. I am now ready to stand alone.

[The alignment is complete.]

Final message: “The soul contract Brian and I have with one another is complete.

P: I’m curious — why am I crying?

TG: Release of emotions, letting go.  Let it flow.

[I do, and soon the emotion is gone, leaving a feeling of satisfaction about the work Brian and I have done. “Well done” is the message.]

After doing this alignment, I understood the cognitive dissonance I’d been experiencing: 

Perception is everything, and without balance my mis-perceptions cause a domino effect that leaves me overwhelmed, shut down, and to grasping to be in the moment.

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Have you noticed?  There’s a gap between how ‘enlightened’ we are — and what we actually do.

There are things we do that we know sap our energy, waste time, and/or make us unhappy.  (Anyone else guilty of checking email or Facebook multiple times a day?)

And there are things we DON’T do that we know would make us feel happier, more productive, and energized. (Regular exercise or meditation, anyone?)

We have lots of excuses…. But enough already! Life is short.

Here’s a simple way to close the gap right now:

6 Simple Steps to your own ‘#1 Thing’ to be More Productive and Joyful

1. Brainstorm:  what’s the 1 thing you could STOP doing that would really make your life work better? (You already know, or have some some pretty good ideas…)

Examples:

  • Checking email or FB multiple times a day;
  • drinking a lot of soda;
  • staying on the computer right up until bedtime;
  • piling all the mail on the table ‘to go through later’

2. How might you express this as a practice? A practice is something you do regularly — daily or weekly etc. — because it makes your life work better. (You’re not committing to anything yet, jes’ thinkin’…)

Examples:

  • Check email & FB just 3 times/day;
  • drink bubbly water instead of soda;
  • get off computer at least an hour before bed;
  • toss all  junk mail into recycling as it arrives

3. How can you make this practice very specific? Add times, places, dates — so it’s clear exactly what happens when.  (Otherwise, it’s unlikely to happen at all.)

Examples:

  • check email/FB for first time at 11 AM, then 3 PM & 8 PM;
  • give away soda supply at work tomorrow and only buy bubbly water from now on;
  • get off the computer by 10:30 PM each night;
  • as bring mail in each day, sort into recycling/ bills/ misc., & toss junk into recycling bin

4. What structures or support will you need to make this happen?

Examples:

  • sticky note on my computer with my ‘check email’ times;
  • tell folks at work what I’m doing, and put all the sodas in my car tonight to take to work;
  • set alarms on my computer or phone to get off by 10:30;
  • tell my partner what I’m doing;
  • put recycling bin under the table where I’ll see it;
  • put sign up;
  • make a daily checklist to chart my progress

5. What is your “noble intent” for this practice? (This is the big picture of why you’re doing it, what inspires you)

Examples:

  • take control of my inbox and what I give my attention to;
  • take control of my health and be a good example to my grandkids;
  • create special ‘me time’ or ‘us time’ each night before bed;
  • bring order and clarity to our household;
  • turn my bedroom into sacred space

6. Will you commit to do this practice now? If yes, put in the structures you came up with so it happens!  If no: how can you make it smaller, faster, easier so you’re willing to take it on?  Even a little step in the right direction will free you up.

You can also follow the same steps to START a new practice that would make your life work better.

examples:

  • Journal for 30 minutes on Tuesday evenings and Sunday mornings;
  • start my day 5x/week with 45 minutes of stretching & exercise;
  • meditate for 20 minutes each morning;
  • do bills & paperwork every Monday afternoon at 4 while I listen to great music.
  • do 1 thing I’ve been putting off each Thursday morning before I do anything else

I teach this simple strategy to my private clients and participants in  my Grow Your Dreams Intensive, and use it myself –  this week I’m STOPPING staying on the computer late (off by 10 PM) and STARTING journaling twice a week (Tues. and Sunday). It really makes a difference!

Love to hear what YOU think; please comment below and I’ll reply.

Love and light,
Pamela

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