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Have you noticed that the old ways of doing things aren’t working anymore?

I sure have. In the past few weeks what’s worked before in my business just stopped working. I was stuck. Felt like a door I’d always been able to walk through before was now closed…

Why am I sabotaging myself?!” I  wondered, more and more anxiously.  “I need to make this work!!”

And I pulled out all the powerful tools I’ve learned to uproot limiting beliefs and soften subconscious resistance. But for the first time, my tools weren’t enough.

I stayed stuck. Just couldn’t get that old door to open.

So, feeling rather desperate, I tapped into my wonderful circle of support… and received a lot of  guidance and love, but still didn’t seem able to do what worked before and what I thought I had to do now.

So finally I gave up.

I said out loud, “OK, OK, it’s just not going to go the way I planned.   I get it.  I surrender!!  What now?”

Perhaps you’ve had a door in your life close, and you feel thoroughly stuck. You just can’t go on the way you have been. 

And then, if you allow it, another door opens.  And it’s much more beautiful…

That’s what happened to me.  The door began opening with a video that really inspired me:

Lily Yeh speaks at Bioneers Conference

Click here to see it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFJkbwFllWY&feature=related

In it international artist Lily Yeh — a remarkable woman who uses the arts to heal communities and create personal and societal transformation — shows slides of her work with ghetto neighborhoods in Philadelphia and genocide survivors in Rwanda.

As I watched Lily speak I felt so moved and inspired – and, truth be told, jealous. “I should be doing something like that!” my heart cried out.

(Seems to me that when we feel jealous, we’re really just seeing some of our own unfulfilled potential realized in someone else… and it hurts.  Jealousy is a wake-up call from the soul.)

Suddenly I remembered the dream I’d had when I started my business over 6 years ago, painting “Possibility Portraits” and leading vision board workshops.  Back then I wanted to do this work with women in prison, and homeless families, and opposing sides in war-torn areas — to help people who feel helpless and alone see their own light and divine potential, and also reflect it out to those who’d feared and rejected them, to heal them all. I imagined a book and a website where the whole world could see: we are ALL different expressions of the same Light, Love and Beauty, all reflections of one another, truly all ONE.  I felt sure this was a path to peace on earth…

But I was too scared and unsure of myself to take a single step toward this dream. So it was soon forgotten.

Artist and social change agent Lily Yeh in front of community art project

Until I saw Lily Yeh.  That’s what she was doing!

And now Lily Yeh is coming HERE, to my home town of Ithaca NY!  She’s giving talks on “Creativity, Transformation, and a Shared Prosperity” and — the part I’m especially thrilled about — leading a workshop for artists, teachers, and others who are excited about creating public art as a process of community building and empowerment that transforms whole communities.

I have a feeling that being there will change my life. If you want to join me (wouldn’t THAT be fun!), there’s about 20 places left:

“ART, TRANSFORMATION AND  SOCIAL CHANGE: Building community through self-expression, creative action, and finding communal voices”

A workshop with celebrated artist Lily Yeh

October 24, 2011 8:30am – 3:30pm

Cornell University, Ithaca NY
Fee: $40 (that’s all, & includes lunch! Some scholarships available too.)

In this workshop, participants will experience Yeh’s methodology, getting to know one another through a unique series of experiences that build connectedness utilizing individual and collective voices, and multiple modes of expression. This workshop will be hands-on, experimental, and participatory… helping people create a new, open space into which they can enter on equal footing, find their voices, and figure out innovative ways to work together. Thus, participants will experience community-building in the making.

If you’d like more info or to register, email me back at pamela@innervisionportraits.com and I’ll send you the flyer with all the details.

Registration Deadline is October 7

Love to play with you there!

And have you had this “door closes, another door opens” getting-unstuck-thing happen in your life?

I’m sharing from my heart here, and I’d love to hear your stories and what you think. Please comment below.


Thanks,

Pamela

P.S. Mysteriously enough, after I ‘surrendered’ and saw a new door I want to walk through in my work, the ‘closed door’ in my business opened up too… 

'Status' Post | By on September 21, 2011

There are 2 major mistakes we tend to make — and they drain away our energy and joy each day.

They both involve tolerating conditions that really bother us.

My friend and former client Martha came over recently and pointed out an irony I’ve long tried to ignore: “Pam, you’re all about light and clarity in your work, and yet you live in a dark and cluttered house. What’s up with that?”

I could feel my face flush, like I’d been caught doing something nasty.

And, I realized, it IS nasty to live in conditions that pull me down every single day, when my work is about lifting people up — especially when I tell myself it’s the fault of my family members that I ‘have to’ live like this. (Then I resent these people I love, and feel hopeless…) Yuck!

Amazing what we’ll tolerate until something wakes us up…  Only then do we realize its true cost in lost energy, lost love (sorry family!), and lost joy (a cluttered environment makes me feel grumpy and anxious). And only that realization gives us the courage to finally DO SOMETHING about it.

Thanks to Martha, I’m finally doing something about the clutter and darkness that’ve been bugging me for over 9 years — getting rid of boxes of stuff we don’t need, reorganizing, letting more light in, and creating a beautiful, inspiring home office to work with my local clients.

It feels so liberating, I can’t believe I waited so long!

So what are you tolerating in YOUR life?  What is draining your energy and joy, and leaving you feeling uninspired, tired, overwhelmed, irritable, or hopeless?

Two places to look:

* Mistake # 1: accepting intolerable (for you) conditions around you — clutter in your home or work space (if you don’t love it &/or use it, it’s clutter); a job or relationship that stiffles you; no time in your schedule to nourish yourself with reflection, pleasure, and rest; lack of support or negativity from people around you

*Mistake #2: accepting intolerable (for you) conditions in you — judgmental thoughts about yourself or others; emotions of anxiety, envy, guilt, shame, or self-pity; health problems; build-up of stress and lack of self-care/ways to manage it

Now, what can you do about it?

Usually the answer involves getting the support you need to make the changes you want. If I hadn’t hired Martha, I would still be stuck with huge amounts of clutter and living and work spaces that drain my energy. I’m so grateful for her fresh vision and do-able steps!

You probably know it’s important to surround yourself with people who support and inspire you, and bring out the best in you — people who see new possibilities where you see only energy drains and frustration.

Unfortunately those closest to you, your family and friends, usually can’t do this. (Typically they’re part of the problem, and can only add friction and drama to your sense of overwhelm.)

The support you desire is more likely to come in the form of mentors or coaches who “get you” and truly have your best interest at heart.  I personally have a decluttering/interior redesign coach (Martha Kinney), a spiritual coach (Ravi Walsh), and two business mastermind groups that I belong to.  I wouldn’t be where I am without them.

So choose wisely! Be very discerning about where you invest your precious time and energy.  Stop tolerating conditions and relationships that don’t work.  Begin to invest more time with people who feed and inspire you, and less time with those who don’t — in every area of your life.  Your life will quickly change for the better!

 

Have feedback or comments?  I’d love to hear — please comment below.

'Status' Post | By on August 17, 2011

I have a confession to make.   For the longest time, I’ve been hiding — scared to admit I receive insights, visions, and inspired guidance from outside my normal awareness — from what I think of as my heart’s wisdom, or the Divine within. Way too weird!  What would people think?!  (And what would my very rational husband say…)

You have to understand, I’m a former academic from an atheist family, and getting divine guidance is sooo NOT “something we do.”

Yet we do… and it’s time to stop hiding, because I have a message for you:

YOU are a divinely-guided being with radiant gifts and healing wisdom to share with the world.

The Heart Rose glowing   (drawing by Pamela)

You may already know this, and express it through your guided business or inspired project.

Or it may be hidden from you by self-doubt, and the distractions and crises of daily life — yet still you sense it’s true.

You and I are points of light in a huge network of Light.  We are all being activated now to give our gifts in a much more expansive, heartfelt, and inspired way — sometimes in the face of big challenges. 

Have you, like me, experienced big changes in the past year?

What’s no longer working is being cleared away.  We are all being called to face what we’ve feared, so we can see it for the illusion it is.  Only then can we find the courage to be authentic and true to our gifts — and to give and receive at a much higher level.

For me that’s looked like crises in both my marriage and my business (honestly, I wasn’t sure if either would survive). Yet thanks to the amazing guidance I received,  I came out the other side much clearer and more peaceful, with a re-focused, heart-guided business AND marriage.

The clearer your guidance, the faster you can move through change and step into your highest contribution.

That’s why I want to share with you a tool to speak directly with your heart’s wisdom, your personal guidance — and get powerful, clear answers. I use it myself, and also teach it to participants in my Grow Your Dreams Intensives and Quantum Leap Business programs:

How to Access Your Guidance:

The Dialogue Method

This powerful tool looks like writing lines of dialogue in a play, but you write your lines and then allow your imagination to let “something else” reply.

Before you begin, get centered.  Click here for a quick way to do this. (Opens in new window)

       STEP 1. Write your name: and ask to make contact with your source of guidance.  If you know what you call it (God, higher self, universe, Spirit, Oneness, a deceased relative, animal totem, guardian angel, etc.) use that. If you don’t, just put “Trusted Guidance” or “TG”.  Then write the name of your guidance: and see/ feel/ hear/ image your guidance’s response.  Write whatever comes.

Example   Pamela: dear God, are you there?

dear God: I am always here.

STEP 2. Now write your name: followed by a request to talk to your guidance. Then write the name of your guidance: followed by an answer. Don’t spend time thinking about it, just write.

Example   Pamela: is it OK if I ask you a question now?

Dear God: Yes, I am here for you.

       STEP 3. Write your name: followed by a question that been bothering you – what to do about situation, or what’s the best way to move forward – any question you like.   Then write the name of your guidance: followed by a response. The answer may come as a feeling, image, memory, physical sensation, or actual words. Don’t worry about whether you are ‘making it up’, just write whatever you get.

       STEP 4. Continue the dialogue. Some questions I like to ask: “What would you like to tell me?” “What is the most important thing for me to do now?” “Which choice is in the highest and best good of all concerned?”  “What am I designed for?”  You can also ask for clarification or specific instructions, or just express appreciation.

       STEP 5. End by thanking it when you’re done, or your guidance indicates it’s done. Thank it even if you got no response. Thank it even if you didn’t like what it said. Thank it even if you don’t believe it was real!

 

I’d love to hear what you think, and what results you get with The Dialogue Method– especially since I’m going out on a limb here… Please comment below.  Check back (or get notified via the RSS feed, under “Meta” in the sidebar) — I will respond.

Let your light shine,

Pamela

'Status' Post | By on August 1, 2011

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