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My Shocking Wedding Miracle (very personal)

My soulmate Mark and I celebrated our Sacred Union this past weekend.

It was a magical outdoor celebration at our home, with a team of helpers aged 7 to 87 who made everything happen; threatened thunderstorms that never came; and a simple ceremony with no officiant, just us and our guests speaking spontaneously from our hearts, to much tears and laughter.

But what touched me most was something quite shocking:

Tearing up at wedding…

Seeing my former husband Brian dance with my new husband Mark.

I watched in amazement as my two husbands embraced each other on the dance floor, and then took turns leading one another through spins and steps, laughing over the awkwardness of 2 hetero guys doing a partner dance…

Never, ever imagined I’d see such a thing!  Yet all the work we’d done to heal old hurts and transform old patterns was so profoundly, playfully and perfectly expressed by that awkward, lovely dance.

That’s why while the other dancers applauded, I found myself sobbing with gratitude and joy on a friend’s shoulder…

OK, Mark and Brian weren’t anywhere near as smooth as these guys, but you get the feeling:

 

What’s going on here?

I’m learning that when we share our love and light freely, without shame, we liberate everyone around us to express their love and light too.  (For me that often looks like tears running down my face and a red nose, but where I used to be embarrassed, now I relish the freedom to keep my heart open and be who I am without hiding.)

And this is where it’s all about YOU.

Dear beautiful Lights, we hold back so often — fearing we’re too much, or that it’s not safe to show our love!  The truth is you can never be too much, and it is always safe to show your love. (As a stranger once told me and Mark, “you’ll inspire the lovers, and stir up the haters”… and it’s all good.)

Have you noticed?  Our hearts long for permission to love fully and authentically – our dear ones, ourselves, Source, the earth, humanity, life itself…  It actually hurts not to express our love, which is why so many of us numb ourselves with addictions and distractions.

(Yes it can also hurt to open your heart and express your love — but it’s such a good pain, just stretching a tight muscle. ;-p)

What if you allowed yourself the courage to BE the love you are, unabashedly, today? Who would you reach out to? What would you do or say?  I am daring to do that in this moment:  I love you for reading this and maybe commenting below, for sharing my journey, and most of all for being the beautiful expression of Love and Light that you are. It is an honor to have you in my life.

And I’m going to continue celebrating and sharing the love over the next 30 days, with some special events and new opportunities for you as part of my beloved community. Looking forward to connecting with you!

 

I have a confession to make.   For the longest time, I’ve been hiding — scared to admit I receive insights, visions, and inspired guidance from outside my normal awareness — from what I think of as my heart’s wisdom, or the Divine within. Way too weird!  What would people think?!  (And what would my very rational husband say…)

You have to understand, I’m a former academic from an atheist family, and getting divine guidance is sooo NOT “something we do.”

Yet we do… and it’s time to stop hiding, because I have a message for you:

YOU are a divinely-guided being with radiant gifts and healing wisdom to share with the world.

The Heart Rose glowing   (drawing by Pamela)

You may already know this, and express it through your guided business or inspired project.

Or it may be hidden from you by self-doubt, and the distractions and crises of daily life — yet still you sense it’s true.

You and I are points of light in a huge network of Light.  We are all being activated now to give our gifts in a much more expansive, heartfelt, and inspired way — sometimes in the face of big challenges. 

Have you, like me, experienced big changes in the past year?

What’s no longer working is being cleared away.  We are all being called to face what we’ve feared, so we can see it for the illusion it is.  Only then can we find the courage to be authentic and true to our gifts — and to give and receive at a much higher level.

For me that’s looked like crises in both my marriage and my business (honestly, I wasn’t sure if either would survive). Yet thanks to the amazing guidance I received,  I came out the other side much clearer and more peaceful, with a re-focused, heart-guided business AND marriage.

The clearer your guidance, the faster you can move through change and step into your highest contribution.

That’s why I want to share with you a tool to speak directly with your heart’s wisdom, your personal guidance — and get powerful, clear answers. I use it myself, and also teach it to participants in my Grow Your Dreams Intensives and Quantum Leap Business programs:

How to Access Your Guidance:

The Dialogue Method

This powerful tool looks like writing lines of dialogue in a play, but you write your lines and then allow your imagination to let “something else” reply.

Before you begin, get centered.  Click here for a quick way to do this. (Opens in new window)

       STEP 1. Write your name: and ask to make contact with your source of guidance.  If you know what you call it (God, higher self, universe, Spirit, Oneness, a deceased relative, animal totem, guardian angel, etc.) use that. If you don’t, just put “Trusted Guidance” or “TG”.  Then write the name of your guidance: and see/ feel/ hear/ image your guidance’s response.  Write whatever comes.

Example   Pamela: dear God, are you there?

dear God: I am always here.

STEP 2. Now write your name: followed by a request to talk to your guidance. Then write the name of your guidance: followed by an answer. Don’t spend time thinking about it, just write.

Example   Pamela: is it OK if I ask you a question now?

Dear God: Yes, I am here for you.

       STEP 3. Write your name: followed by a question that been bothering you – what to do about situation, or what’s the best way to move forward – any question you like.   Then write the name of your guidance: followed by a response. The answer may come as a feeling, image, memory, physical sensation, or actual words. Don’t worry about whether you are ‘making it up’, just write whatever you get.

       STEP 4. Continue the dialogue. Some questions I like to ask: “What would you like to tell me?” “What is the most important thing for me to do now?” “Which choice is in the highest and best good of all concerned?”  “What am I designed for?”  You can also ask for clarification or specific instructions, or just express appreciation.

       STEP 5. End by thanking it when you’re done, or your guidance indicates it’s done. Thank it even if you got no response. Thank it even if you didn’t like what it said. Thank it even if you don’t believe it was real!

 

I’d love to hear what you think, and what results you get with The Dialogue Method– especially since I’m going out on a limb here… Please comment below.  Check back (or get notified via the RSS feed, under “Meta” in the sidebar) — I will respond.

Let your light shine,

Pamela

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