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Your Inner Critic is NOT your enemy

You know that mean inner voice that says, “You SHOULD BE …”, “You SHOULDN’T have …” and “What is WRONG with you?!” in such a harsh and judgemental way?

Yup, our Inner Critic gets really nasty when we’re not living up to its high standards.

It often seems like our worst enemy: keeps us up at night, stops us from trying new things, prevents us from finishing projects (“it’s not perfect yet!!”), drives us to be workaholics, sabotages our relationships, makes us feel like crap…

But our Inner Critic isn’t ALL bad.  In fact, successful people have a strong Inner Critic that drives their success, even when they don’t like how it does it.  

It really bugs me when therapists and coaches try to get you to SILENCE your Inner Critic — because your Inner Critic, like your other subconscious parts, actually has a contribution to make. Beneath the insults, slave-driving and self-sabotage, it’s trying to protect you and teach you to be a better person.
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When you learn how to negotiate with your Inner Critic  
and appreciate its role, it becomes your ally  
and BREAKS THROUGH your blocks.  
(This is true of ALL parts of your ego.)
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Yesterday I guided a client I’ll call “Laurel” through a dialogue with her inner critic. This powerful technique may sound weird, but it creates peace, ease and clarity in minutes — even when you’ve been stuck for months or years:
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CASE STUDY: Laurel and her Inner Critic
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Laurel is a successful entrepreneur who just moved her family to a new state.  She’s also wise, so she planned several weeks off from her business for moving and getting to know their new community. She carefully set aside the time and money to be able to relax, get settled and explore with her family.

But when it came down to it, Laurel simply could not let herself relax or “just” explore! There were so many things things she SHOULD do instead… She felt “massive resistance” within her and was really frustrated.

(Note: “Should” is one of the Inner Critic’s favorite words. ;-p)

So I guided Laurel to channel her Inner Critic – she calls it “Cruella” – while I asked questions and listened respectfully.
Turns out “Cruella” had very useful ideas to make Laurel’s transition feel safer:
  1. Create lists of all the things that need to be done by area (house, work, etc)
  2. Hang the lists up where they’re out of sight but can be reviewed regularly — on her closet walls!
  3. Create a rough timeline for what needs to happen when & hang it up too.
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However, even if Laurel agreed to do these things, Cruella said she did not trust her to follow through. So she STILL wouldn’t allow Laurel to relax and explore…

“You SHOULD be doing your To Dos, not wasting time on this!! You LAZY, DISGUSTING SLOB!!”

“OK,” I said to Cruella. “What’s the worst thing that could happen if Laurel ignored her To Do lists?”  When we drilled down, the very worst thing Cruella could think of was that Laurel would “hate her life“.

I pointed out that for Laurel NOT to “hate her life”, she needs to be able to relax sometimes and enjoy being in the moment…  (Laurel is a meditator of many years’ practice; a big part of her is all about ‘being in the moment.’)

I asked Cruella: “Is there was a way to compromise?

Cruella: “Yes.” [!] “If Laurel takes the time to get clear about all the pieces that need to be done, and focuses on 1 thing in the moment, I’ll let her enjoy moments of exploring and relaxing too.” 

 

Whoo hoo! I thanked Cruella for the breakthrough, and noted that when all the pieces are clear + Laurel is in the moment = there is inner PEACE. Cruella and Laurel-the-meditator make a perfect team!

Cruella: “Actually, I prefer to be called ‘Judith’…”

Laurel: “Wow, I feel so much clearer and more peaceful!”

It’s vital to get to know, appreciate and negotiate with our subconscious parts, so we can stop being at war with ourselves. For if we don’t have peace in ourselves, how can we possibly have peace in our relationships, much less peace in the world?

Love and blessings,

Fereshta’s Story — the incredible, inspiring power of getting clear

I want to share a true story that moves and inspires me.

It’s a reader’s story, someone I’ve never met, whose life was transformed by 1 of the exercises we’ll be doing in Sunday’s workshop, “Crystal Clear for the New Year: A Soul-Guided Journey to Your Deep Truth“.

Her name is Fereshta. She first wrote me back on July 5:

Fereshta Ramsey, singer-songwriter & peace activist
www.fereshta.com

Hello Pamela,

My name is Fereshta and I came across your work from the lovely Daphne Cohn!

I wanted to thank you personally for this beautiful exercise of clarity that you have gifted us with.

I’ve been stuck in a rut of a thousand great ideas for a while now.  As a singer, songwriter and peace activist, there are so many ways I can share my gifts.  Everyone tells me, to get a following, I need to play dive bars to semi-interested strangers.  Well I’ve done that and found very little joy in it.

Having just gone through the 5 senses to clarity exercise, I saw that the brightest beacon for joy in my heart, right now, is to go home to the motherland (Afghanistan) and teach songwriting as a healing modality for catharsis, the release of toxic emotions in the body and for freedom of self-expression.

I could see myself standing in front of a classroom full of children, walking the isles and teaching them songwriting, grading papers and tutoring students.  I could hear children’s laughter, my name pronounced correctly in the mothertongue (there is thrill to this I cannot fully explain!  when you never hear your name pronounced correctly, it almost feels like you don’t exist), lots of gregarious conversations in Dari.  I could feel the warm pink glow in my heart with golden sparkles shimmering all about, feeling warm, relaxed, connected, purposeful, alive and in spirit.  It feels like velvet to the touch, with a soft silk lining, like the velvet jackets worn by musicians, poets and revolutionaries in the 60’s.  It tasted like chocolate, almonds and green tea with cardamom and smelled like a rose garden fully in bloom.

So thank you, because this clarity after months of soul-searching is an incredibly sacred gift.  It may not be what everyone is telling me to do (tour, perform, make money) but it is the experience and contribution my soul longs for most at this time.

With peace, love and blessings,
Fereshta.”

 

In September Fereshta wrote me again:

Dear Pamela,

I hope this finds you well and inspired by your days!

I wanted to followup with you and let you know that my vision is expanding.  For years now, I have been struggling to “make it” as a rockstar here in LA.  Despite an incredibly determined (immigrant) work ethic, nothing has moved forward in my career and I have been incredibly frustrated.  When I finally did play a show at the Roxy on Sunset (a dream come true), I could FEEL in the core of my being that something was truly missing.  The idea of playing to hundreds or even thousands of semi-interested, mostly drunk strangers who just wanted to party felt so out of alignment with the impact I wanted to make as a healer and a peace activist.

When the gift of your clarity work so beautifully found its way to me, I was able to see and FEEL something so sacred in returning home and helping the war babies of my country heal and empower themselves through music just as I did.  It is a far more humbling call than the arenas I longed to play when I began this journey, yet it inspires me to the marrow and infuses me with such a deep sense of contribution and aliveness.

Since then, I’ve begun focusing my efforts on peace and humanitarian work.  It’s been so life-giving to align myself with like-hearted companions who share the same intention and moral imperative to unify our human family and revision humanity so that it works for all!

I was limiting my soul by thinking I could only be a musician.  I was limiting my soul by focusing on “making it” in LA.  Now I have this deep, sweet knowing that being a teacher, role model, poet, activist, musician and global healer are all part of my destiny in this lifetime.  

I began as a shy poet girl and thought the top of the mountain would be singing and performing at the Roxy.  After all, Tori Amos, Miles Davis and Bob Marley all sang on that stage!  And for that shy girl, who was scared to death of being in front of an audience, that stage was the end goal.

However, when I reached the top of that mountain, I sensed more deeply that another mountain was waiting.  For me now, that is the children.  That is teaching and sharing my story in a way that benefits and contributes to others.  And I sense later that it may be global leadership and global solutions as an activist!

I would love to meet you one day and hopefully do that interview.  I just spoke at my first elementary school to a room full of 5th graders, and they were so curious and full of questions, learning about the plight of children in Afghanistan and wanting to know how they could help.  It was such a moving experience to see children wanting to make the world better, with such open-hearted love.  🙂

Peace, love and blessings,
Fereshta

 

Now Fereshta just sent me a wonderful update on December 31:

Dearest Pamela,

I hope this finds you well and inspired by the promises of a new year!

I just had to write you and let you know my grant application has been approved!  I don’t know if you remember, but I wrote you a few months ago after listening to one of your exercises, and having the realization that I am needed in the motherland (Afghanistan) to nurture and support the war children, and to show them a path through music and self-expression that can become their healing modality and life-giving art form.  Well, my grant application was approved and I’ll not only be going there for a summer residency and songwriting masterclass, but I’ll actually be paid a teacher’s salary which I was totally not expecting!!!

I am OVER THE MOON excited to see this dream manifest so effortlessly.  It seriously required about four emails and some patience on my party, and the Universe said a loud and resounding “Yes!”  

I’ve had so many rejections in the LA rock arena, and yet I sensed even then, despite my frustrations, that I was being redirected to something better, something deeper and way more meaningful to my soul and the journey she longs to create!

So thank you, a million thank yous!!!

Wishing you immense joy, deep satisfaction and peaceful bliss!
Fereshta

Pretty darn inspiring, don’t you agree? Plus Fereshta writes so beautifully…

Find out more and connect with Fereshta at www.fereshta.com

See  Fereshta’s inspiring “Global Nation” video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Awc83xwjXc

Fereshta will be getting even more clarity and transformation in this Sunday’s “Crystal Clear for the New Year” online workshop. Will you?

Join us — save your seat now

Love and blessings,

P.S. Nothing is more fun and fulfilling for me than to help people access their own deep wisdom. The clarity you seek is within you, longing to be heard!

Click here to Get Crystal Clear for the New Year: A Soul-Guided Journey to Your Deep Truth

The Hidden Gift?

I’m back now from my vacation in Alaska and California, where I experienced deep JOY — and also complete CONFUSION.

There was JOY in being with my dear Alaskan sister Coowe (left), who I love and miss very much.

And JOY in going on a 5 hour horseback expedition with her — even though I hadn’t ridden a horse since I was 12 (and I was scared of horses Pamela on horseback in Alaskathen).  This time it was exhilarating to canter across the tidal flats!

There was JOY too in savoring fresh California peaches, watching the fog roll into San Francisco Bay, and connecting with heart friends and family I hadn’t seen in ages.

I even found JOY trying to sleep on an air mattress that kept collapsing!  (Eventually you just have to giggle and accept sleeping on the floor…)

However I found it much harder to accept the profound CONFUSION I felt talking to 2 estranged sisters.

Sister A told me that Sister B rejected her and stopped talking to her over some slights from childhood. Sounded plausible enough….

Then Sister B told me Sister A wasn’t normal and wouldn’t communicate no matter how hard Sister B tried. Sister B really seemed really believable — but her account contained shocking revelations.

My head swam:  How can this be??  It goes against everything I’ve been told… But my gut feels she’s right…
The cognitive dissonance was so strong I literally couldn’t think

And it reminded me of 2 earlier experiences where I’d been stunned by new information that called into doubt everything I’d believed (and wanted to believe)…

Then on my first day back home, IT HAPPENED AGAIN!  

 I experienced the exact same mental CONFUSION — “How can this be??” — when someone at my bank confidently gave me wrong information about a disputed bill.  Panicked, I acted on it, only to discover later that there was a completely different (and more plausible) interpretation of the facts.

I felt quite chagrined. “OK, what’s going on…” I wondered.

(Could it had something to do with wanting to see only the positive in people and trust them?  And my impatience and impulsiveness?)

I decided I’d better ask myself a powerful question:

“What is the hidden GIFT or lesson here?”

If you have any ‘negative’ patterns of your own, this question is great to work with.

And what I uncovered was so unexpectedly beautiful,  I want to share it with you:

Direct from my private journal

Notes: “TG” = “Trusted Guidance,” what I call my soul’s voice in me. “Alignment” = process to quickly create deep & lasting change on a subconscious level.

Pamela Moss PamelaCan you tell me about the lessons & gifts from these 2 experiences?

soul guide symbol by Pamela Moss TG:  Of course. You already intuit the lesson/gift: as you step into deeper trust and connection, it must be balanced with deeper discernment & appropriate boundaries. You cannot serve at a higher level without this. In the bigger picture, everything is about balance and right order.

P: Great. So is the best way to get this discernment to do an alignment?

TG: Are you open and willing now to be discerning and to set appropriate boundaries — by checking in with your own guidance system?

P. Yes, I’m finally ready & willing, for the first time in my life, I think.

TG: Then you may do the deep magic [= alignment]. Do it now.

P: OK!  [joyous]

P: My Goal/belief statement:  I now claim my powers of discernment to see warning signs & inconsistencies in others’ behavior and communication. My heart is open, & so are my eyes, & my third eye — I now have the clarity & will to set appropriate boundaries & to speak to the hidden lie, as an expression of divine love & personal power. I am an adult & can & do take care of myself.

[I select an alignment called “Sacred Object”, where you look around to see an object that stands out to you: it has a message for you. You look at it until you receive/intuit/imagine the message.]

What immediately jumps out at me is a lamp without a shade, just a bare energy-efficient bulb. It is very bright.

As I gaze at it I see it has 2 coils, and is too bright to look at easily, just a bright blob. But as I keep looking I realize: “I CAN discern the details, more and more, the more I look.”

I get the message: “You are like this coil and this lamp.”

The more I look, the more clearly I can see the details of the coil, and also the distinct aura around it.  The after-image creates a blind spot before my eyes — but I can see through it, too, as I write. The lamp base is tall and curvy. This lamp is shining brightly, a beacon. And it stands alone.

I get the message: “I have learned my lesson from Brian [my husband, a quite discerning & cautious man]. I have received the gift from him. I am now ready to stand alone.

[The alignment is complete.]

Final message: “The soul contract Brian and I have with one another is complete.

P: I’m curious — why am I crying?

TG: Release of emotions, letting go.  Let it flow.

[I do, and soon the emotion is gone, leaving a feeling of satisfaction about the work Brian and I have done. “Well done” is the message.]

After doing this alignment, I understood the cognitive dissonance I’d been experiencing: 

Perception is everything, and without balance my mis-perceptions cause a domino effect that leaves me overwhelmed, shut down, and to grasping to be in the moment.

Choose Your Path

The Magic of Gratitude and the Power of Choice

Yesterday I woke up very early, feeling full of fear and doubt. I lay in bed trying to calm myself down, trying to figuring out what I was afraid of and why I couldn’t relax and go back to sleep…. Boy, that sure didn’t help.

Finally I got up to do some journaling with my “trusted guidance,” which is the voice my soul uses to talk to me.  And what happened was so remarkable that I want to share it with you:

Direct from my private journal

Pamela Moss Pamela: I’m feeling fear and doubt and can’t sleep. Dear TG [trusted guidance], can you help? What’s going on? It even seems hard to connect with you…

soul guide symbol by Pamela Moss TG: It seems so. It is not.

P:  So please help me. What’s going on? What do I need to do to go back to sleep?

TG: You know the answer. Sometimes this fear and doubt is just an automatic reaction of your mind. You do not need to  ‘figure it out,’ it is simply a matter of being willing.  Are you willing to experience the profound love,  joy, peace, and harmony that is in your heart right now and always?

P: I want to say yes, but…

TG: What is the ‘but’? What do you have to lose?

P: I think it is a fear of trusting – feeling I must make something happen, I can’t just ‘trust’…

TG: Is that true?

P: No, I could just trust. I am doing all I can to make things happen, and they are happening… I just wish it were easier…

TG: It is easier. You have choice on what to focus on. You are arguing for your smallness and the Illusion. Wake up!

P: Thank you. I am awake.

TGReally wake up! Choose what you want.

P:  What I really want? [A rush of deep feeling…]  I want to love God – purely and completely. I choose to give my heart and my life to serve God in all forms Love leads me to. I choose to be authentic. I choose to be brave. I choose compassion for the human condition we are all born into — and I choose delight that I can divine love and harmony anytime I choose to.  

        I choose to expect goodness — what fun!  I am really taking that one on right now. I can’t wait to see what happens today; there are several beautiful opportunities that I know of, and I choose to expect unexpected goodness, too – surprise me!  Thank you, thank you!

      I choose the freedom to focus on all that is right, rather than what is wrong. I choose gratitude – I’m so grateful to have the capacity to choose! (And I choose to acknowledge David Mumm of PowerLearn.us for reminding me of the power of choice and his alphabetical affirmations. Thank you David!)

      I choose to trust that you are always there, dear TG, to guide and protect me. I choose that life is a magical adventure. I choose that it is in the highest and best good for all, especially me, to allow myself to trust, to love, and to enjoy the adventure!  I know everything can change in an instant for the better, anytime I choose. Thank you for that miracle!  

      And now I see the gift in my sleeplessness and fear and doubt – another opportunity to practice choosing, and experience this liberation. Thank you!!

TG: Can you now choose to trust that all is truly well, and go back to sleep?

P: I don’t know, I’ll check in with myself to see…

TG: NO, we ask: can you choose it?

P: Yes I can choose it.

TG: Is there any reason not to?

P: [on reflection] No. I choose to trust that all is truly well (and has been, and will be.) I choose as an act of trust to allow myself to relax and fall back to sleep – without effort or trying, just relaxing into the beauty and gratitude of choosing to trust. Thank you. I feel moved! 

And now I am moving myself back up to bed…  [Slept more soundly than I had in days, awoke totally refreshed, had a wonderful day.]

What is going on here?

On a profound level we are all, worldwide, at work on piercing through the veil of  Illusion (fear, doubt, shame, hatred, prejudice, all forms of separation) to remember our true unity and essential nature — the love, light and joy that glows like a jewel in our hearts. Every time each of us awakens to this truth we strengthen the energetic Grid of Light that helps us all grow, heal and evolve.

One of the easiest and most powerful ways to see through the Illusion right NOW is to combine the magic of gratitude and the power of choice.

You can do this as simply as 1, 2, 3:

STEP 1. Scan your thoughts, feeling, and body sensations to notice what is already there.

STEP 2. If what you notice does NOT make you feel good, tell yourself  “I am willing to experience something better” and see if you can allow that to be true. (If you can’t, just notice you’re not willing right now. You can always ask “please help me to be willing,” or try again later.)

STEP 3. If you are willing, actively CHOOSE it now. Write or say aloud, “I choose life is an adventure. I choose to be brave. I choose to be caring.” Feel the truth of each statement as you say it. (This shifts us from fear-and-struggle mode into Love, and changes our perception of reality in a moment).

Bonus: You can strengthen this shift by going through the alphabet — for each letter choose a virtue or possibility that enlivens you, and CHOOSE it. For example:

I choose now (or today) to be:

  • A   authentic
  • B   brave
  •   compassionate
  • D   divining love & harmony
  • E    expecting goodness
  • F    forgiving myself & others
  •   grateful

Try it out, and tell me what happens!

sunflowerAnd if you’re on Facebook, I invite you to join us in sharing what you are grateful for & what you are choosing!

http://www.facebook.com/possibilitypam

It’s truly inspiring and uplifting to participate in this 365 Days of Gratitude movement, even if you only read what others write…

And I’d love to hear from YOU.

With love and blessings,

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Dr. Pamela Moss, The Soul Guide

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'Chat' Post | By on November 19, 2011

Feeling unsure or confused about how to move forward?

You have far more wisdom within you than you know.

Really. I’ve been feeling so grateful  for my own inner guidance, and so blown away by how easily my clients are getting powerful wisdom from their own deep guidance — the very first time they try.   It’s quite inspiring!

Like Daphne:   “I got clarity I didn’t even expect, and answers  
I wasn’t even looking for — your process took me out of my head  
and into a much truer knowing.  It was very powerful:   
I discovered the purpose of my business,  ways I’d need to grow  
for it to be successful, and I even got a tagline!” 
— Daphne Cohn, The Pleasure Nutritionist & Founder of All About Her Biz

Want to experience the deep wisdom within YOU, and get clear answers to your questions?

You CAN — next Tuesday in my NEW teleseminar, “The Clarity Class”:

The CLARITY Class

3 Critical Keys to Cut Through Confusion,
Overwhelm and Doubt —  to Get the
Clarity, Focus, and Deep Guidance You Crave  for Your Business or Your Life

Tuesday November 8 
10 AM Pacific       1 PM Eastern      6 PM GMT (London)

In a hurry?  Get the call-in info here

In this F.R.E.E. “Clarity Class” you will discover:

  • The 3 critical keys to get Clarity, Focus & Deep Guidance
  • How to get really clear about what you want (it’s NOT what you think!)
  • A surprisingly simple and incredibly powerful way to get deep guidance —       any time you want it
  • 2 no-cost tools that effortlessly focus your attention — and supercharge your results
  • How to tap into the power of your subconscious mind to create ‘miracles’ — new openings for action where it seemed impossible!

And there’s no charge for all this goodness!

Here’s the link to sign up, get the recording, or learn more:  http://bit.ly/deepguidance

Get clear!

Many blessings to you,
Pamela

P.S. If you’re a bit nervous about hearing directly from YOUR deep guidance, don’t worry, we’ll do some work on the call to make sure you don’t get anything you’re not open to.   Join us, won’t you?

'Status' Post | By on November 4, 2011

Have you noticed that the old ways of doing things aren’t working anymore?

I sure have. In the past few weeks what’s worked before in my business just stopped working. I was stuck. Felt like a door I’d always been able to walk through before was now closed…

Why am I sabotaging myself?!” I  wondered, more and more anxiously.  “I need to make this work!!”

And I pulled out all the powerful tools I’ve learned to uproot limiting beliefs and soften subconscious resistance. But for the first time, my tools weren’t enough.

I stayed stuck. Just couldn’t get that old door to open.

So, feeling rather desperate, I tapped into my wonderful circle of support… and received a lot of  guidance and love, but still didn’t seem able to do what worked before and what I thought I had to do now.

So finally I gave up.

I said out loud, “OK, OK, it’s just not going to go the way I planned.   I get it.  I surrender!!  What now?”

Perhaps you’ve had a door in your life close, and you feel thoroughly stuck. You just can’t go on the way you have been. 

And then, if you allow it, another door opens.  And it’s much more beautiful…

That’s what happened to me.  The door began opening with a video that really inspired me:

Lily Yeh speaks at Bioneers Conference

Click here to see it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFJkbwFllWY&feature=related

In it international artist Lily Yeh — a remarkable woman who uses the arts to heal communities and create personal and societal transformation — shows slides of her work with ghetto neighborhoods in Philadelphia and genocide survivors in Rwanda.

As I watched Lily speak I felt so moved and inspired – and, truth be told, jealous. “I should be doing something like that!” my heart cried out.

(Seems to me that when we feel jealous, we’re really just seeing some of our own unfulfilled potential realized in someone else… and it hurts.  Jealousy is a wake-up call from the soul.)

Suddenly I remembered the dream I’d had when I started my business over 6 years ago, painting “Possibility Portraits” and leading vision board workshops.  Back then I wanted to do this work with women in prison, and homeless families, and opposing sides in war-torn areas — to help people who feel helpless and alone see their own light and divine potential, and also reflect it out to those who’d feared and rejected them, to heal them all. I imagined a book and a website where the whole world could see: we are ALL different expressions of the same Light, Love and Beauty, all reflections of one another, truly all ONE.  I felt sure this was a path to peace on earth…

But I was too scared and unsure of myself to take a single step toward this dream. So it was soon forgotten.

Artist and social change agent Lily Yeh in front of community art project

Until I saw Lily Yeh.  That’s what she was doing!

And now Lily Yeh is coming HERE, to my home town of Ithaca NY!  She’s giving talks on “Creativity, Transformation, and a Shared Prosperity” and — the part I’m especially thrilled about — leading a workshop for artists, teachers, and others who are excited about creating public art as a process of community building and empowerment that transforms whole communities.

I have a feeling that being there will change my life. If you want to join me (wouldn’t THAT be fun!), there’s about 20 places left:

“ART, TRANSFORMATION AND  SOCIAL CHANGE: Building community through self-expression, creative action, and finding communal voices”

A workshop with celebrated artist Lily Yeh

October 24, 2011 8:30am – 3:30pm

Cornell University, Ithaca NY
Fee: $40 (that’s all, & includes lunch! Some scholarships available too.)

In this workshop, participants will experience Yeh’s methodology, getting to know one another through a unique series of experiences that build connectedness utilizing individual and collective voices, and multiple modes of expression. This workshop will be hands-on, experimental, and participatory… helping people create a new, open space into which they can enter on equal footing, find their voices, and figure out innovative ways to work together. Thus, participants will experience community-building in the making.

If you’d like more info or to register, email me back at pamela@innervisionportraits.com and I’ll send you the flyer with all the details.

Registration Deadline is October 7

Love to play with you there!

And have you had this “door closes, another door opens” getting-unstuck-thing happen in your life?

I’m sharing from my heart here, and I’d love to hear your stories and what you think. Please comment below.


Thanks,

Pamela

P.S. Mysteriously enough, after I ‘surrendered’ and saw a new door I want to walk through in my work, the ‘closed door’ in my business opened up too… 

'Status' Post | By on September 21, 2011

There are 2 major mistakes we tend to make — and they drain away our energy and joy each day.

They both involve tolerating conditions that really bother us.

My friend and former client Martha came over recently and pointed out an irony I’ve long tried to ignore: “Pam, you’re all about light and clarity in your work, and yet you live in a dark and cluttered house. What’s up with that?”

I could feel my face flush, like I’d been caught doing something nasty.

And, I realized, it IS nasty to live in conditions that pull me down every single day, when my work is about lifting people up — especially when I tell myself it’s the fault of my family members that I ‘have to’ live like this. (Then I resent these people I love, and feel hopeless…) Yuck!

Amazing what we’ll tolerate until something wakes us up…  Only then do we realize its true cost in lost energy, lost love (sorry family!), and lost joy (a cluttered environment makes me feel grumpy and anxious). And only that realization gives us the courage to finally DO SOMETHING about it.

Thanks to Martha, I’m finally doing something about the clutter and darkness that’ve been bugging me for over 9 years — getting rid of boxes of stuff we don’t need, reorganizing, letting more light in, and creating a beautiful, inspiring home office to work with my local clients.

It feels so liberating, I can’t believe I waited so long!

So what are you tolerating in YOUR life?  What is draining your energy and joy, and leaving you feeling uninspired, tired, overwhelmed, irritable, or hopeless?

Two places to look:

* Mistake # 1: accepting intolerable (for you) conditions around you — clutter in your home or work space (if you don’t love it &/or use it, it’s clutter); a job or relationship that stiffles you; no time in your schedule to nourish yourself with reflection, pleasure, and rest; lack of support or negativity from people around you

*Mistake #2: accepting intolerable (for you) conditions in you — judgmental thoughts about yourself or others; emotions of anxiety, envy, guilt, shame, or self-pity; health problems; build-up of stress and lack of self-care/ways to manage it

Now, what can you do about it?

Usually the answer involves getting the support you need to make the changes you want. If I hadn’t hired Martha, I would still be stuck with huge amounts of clutter and living and work spaces that drain my energy. I’m so grateful for her fresh vision and do-able steps!

You probably know it’s important to surround yourself with people who support and inspire you, and bring out the best in you — people who see new possibilities where you see only energy drains and frustration.

Unfortunately those closest to you, your family and friends, usually can’t do this. (Typically they’re part of the problem, and can only add friction and drama to your sense of overwhelm.)

The support you desire is more likely to come in the form of mentors or coaches who “get you” and truly have your best interest at heart.  I personally have a decluttering/interior redesign coach (Martha Kinney), a spiritual coach (Ravi Walsh), and two business mastermind groups that I belong to.  I wouldn’t be where I am without them.

So choose wisely! Be very discerning about where you invest your precious time and energy.  Stop tolerating conditions and relationships that don’t work.  Begin to invest more time with people who feed and inspire you, and less time with those who don’t — in every area of your life.  Your life will quickly change for the better!

 

Have feedback or comments?  I’d love to hear — please comment below.

'Status' Post | By on August 17, 2011

I have a confession to make.   For the longest time, I’ve been hiding — scared to admit I receive insights, visions, and inspired guidance from outside my normal awareness — from what I think of as my heart’s wisdom, or the Divine within. Way too weird!  What would people think?!  (And what would my very rational husband say…)

You have to understand, I’m a former academic from an atheist family, and getting divine guidance is sooo NOT “something we do.”

Yet we do… and it’s time to stop hiding, because I have a message for you:

YOU are a divinely-guided being with radiant gifts and healing wisdom to share with the world.

The Heart Rose glowing   (drawing by Pamela)

You may already know this, and express it through your guided business or inspired project.

Or it may be hidden from you by self-doubt, and the distractions and crises of daily life — yet still you sense it’s true.

You and I are points of light in a huge network of Light.  We are all being activated now to give our gifts in a much more expansive, heartfelt, and inspired way — sometimes in the face of big challenges. 

Have you, like me, experienced big changes in the past year?

What’s no longer working is being cleared away.  We are all being called to face what we’ve feared, so we can see it for the illusion it is.  Only then can we find the courage to be authentic and true to our gifts — and to give and receive at a much higher level.

For me that’s looked like crises in both my marriage and my business (honestly, I wasn’t sure if either would survive). Yet thanks to the amazing guidance I received,  I came out the other side much clearer and more peaceful, with a re-focused, heart-guided business AND marriage.

The clearer your guidance, the faster you can move through change and step into your highest contribution.

That’s why I want to share with you a tool to speak directly with your heart’s wisdom, your personal guidance — and get powerful, clear answers. I use it myself, and also teach it to participants in my Grow Your Dreams Intensives and Quantum Leap Business programs:

How to Access Your Guidance:

The Dialogue Method

This powerful tool looks like writing lines of dialogue in a play, but you write your lines and then allow your imagination to let “something else” reply.

Before you begin, get centered.  Click here for a quick way to do this. (Opens in new window)

       STEP 1. Write your name: and ask to make contact with your source of guidance.  If you know what you call it (God, higher self, universe, Spirit, Oneness, a deceased relative, animal totem, guardian angel, etc.) use that. If you don’t, just put “Trusted Guidance” or “TG”.  Then write the name of your guidance: and see/ feel/ hear/ image your guidance’s response.  Write whatever comes.

Example   Pamela: dear God, are you there?

dear God: I am always here.

STEP 2. Now write your name: followed by a request to talk to your guidance. Then write the name of your guidance: followed by an answer. Don’t spend time thinking about it, just write.

Example   Pamela: is it OK if I ask you a question now?

Dear God: Yes, I am here for you.

       STEP 3. Write your name: followed by a question that been bothering you – what to do about situation, or what’s the best way to move forward – any question you like.   Then write the name of your guidance: followed by a response. The answer may come as a feeling, image, memory, physical sensation, or actual words. Don’t worry about whether you are ‘making it up’, just write whatever you get.

       STEP 4. Continue the dialogue. Some questions I like to ask: “What would you like to tell me?” “What is the most important thing for me to do now?” “Which choice is in the highest and best good of all concerned?”  “What am I designed for?”  You can also ask for clarification or specific instructions, or just express appreciation.

       STEP 5. End by thanking it when you’re done, or your guidance indicates it’s done. Thank it even if you got no response. Thank it even if you didn’t like what it said. Thank it even if you don’t believe it was real!

 

I’d love to hear what you think, and what results you get with The Dialogue Method– especially since I’m going out on a limb here… Please comment below.  Check back (or get notified via the RSS feed, under “Meta” in the sidebar) — I will respond.

Let your light shine,

Pamela

'Status' Post | By on August 1, 2011

Have you noticed?  There’s a gap between how ‘enlightened’ we are — and what we actually do.

There are things we do that we know sap our energy, waste time, and/or make us unhappy.  (Anyone else guilty of checking email or Facebook multiple times a day?)

And there are things we DON’T do that we know would make us feel happier, more productive, and energized. (Regular exercise or meditation, anyone?)

We have lots of excuses…. But enough already! Life is short.

Here’s a simple way to close the gap right now:

6 Simple Steps to your own ‘#1 Thing’ to be More Productive and Joyful

1. Brainstorm:  what’s the 1 thing you could STOP doing that would really make your life work better? (You already know, or have some some pretty good ideas…)

Examples:

  • Checking email or FB multiple times a day;
  • drinking a lot of soda;
  • staying on the computer right up until bedtime;
  • piling all the mail on the table ‘to go through later’

2. How might you express this as a practice? A practice is something you do regularly — daily or weekly etc. — because it makes your life work better. (You’re not committing to anything yet, jes’ thinkin’…)

Examples:

  • Check email & FB just 3 times/day;
  • drink bubbly water instead of soda;
  • get off computer at least an hour before bed;
  • toss all  junk mail into recycling as it arrives

3. How can you make this practice very specific? Add times, places, dates — so it’s clear exactly what happens when.  (Otherwise, it’s unlikely to happen at all.)

Examples:

  • check email/FB for first time at 11 AM, then 3 PM & 8 PM;
  • give away soda supply at work tomorrow and only buy bubbly water from now on;
  • get off the computer by 10:30 PM each night;
  • as bring mail in each day, sort into recycling/ bills/ misc., & toss junk into recycling bin

4. What structures or support will you need to make this happen?

Examples:

  • sticky note on my computer with my ‘check email’ times;
  • tell folks at work what I’m doing, and put all the sodas in my car tonight to take to work;
  • set alarms on my computer or phone to get off by 10:30;
  • tell my partner what I’m doing;
  • put recycling bin under the table where I’ll see it;
  • put sign up;
  • make a daily checklist to chart my progress

5. What is your “noble intent” for this practice? (This is the big picture of why you’re doing it, what inspires you)

Examples:

  • take control of my inbox and what I give my attention to;
  • take control of my health and be a good example to my grandkids;
  • create special ‘me time’ or ‘us time’ each night before bed;
  • bring order and clarity to our household;
  • turn my bedroom into sacred space

6. Will you commit to do this practice now? If yes, put in the structures you came up with so it happens!  If no: how can you make it smaller, faster, easier so you’re willing to take it on?  Even a little step in the right direction will free you up.

You can also follow the same steps to START a new practice that would make your life work better.

examples:

  • Journal for 30 minutes on Tuesday evenings and Sunday mornings;
  • start my day 5x/week with 45 minutes of stretching & exercise;
  • meditate for 20 minutes each morning;
  • do bills & paperwork every Monday afternoon at 4 while I listen to great music.
  • do 1 thing I’ve been putting off each Thursday morning before I do anything else

I teach this simple strategy to my private clients and participants in  my Grow Your Dreams Intensive, and use it myself –  this week I’m STOPPING staying on the computer late (off by 10 PM) and STARTING journaling twice a week (Tues. and Sunday). It really makes a difference!

Love to hear what YOU think; please comment below and I’ll reply.

Love and light,
Pamela

'Status' Post | By on July 13, 2011

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