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Guest blog: The 5 Keys to Letting Your ‘Secret Power’ Do for Your Life What You Can’t

Sophie (with accidental halo!) listening within

I never imagined I could fly coast to coast for $35.  I had no idea that I’d go from couch to TEDx speaker in one fell swoop, or from non-athlete to half marathon-runner in three months… then be even more stunned by what happened next.

As a lifelong smarty-pants, I’m kinda used to knowing things. All the same, when it comes to making the very best things happen, what’s possible, or even who I am, I have arrived at the following shocking and liberating truth: I don’t know squat.

In fact, I believe we all know far less, yet strangely much, much more, than we realize. But before I share the secret to a certain kind of stupidity that can transform your life… let’s talk about you. 🙂

You’ve had some pretty great ideas about what you want in life. Naturally, you set out to make those things happen, and everything turned out exactly the way you thought it would.

Said no one ever!

Those times that everything falls into place, those people with the happiest, most amazing lives — they didn’t happen all by themselves. And exactly according to plan?  Not a chance.

You may find that even when you know what you could do — or “should” do — to be your dream-you, you struggle to do those things. Or that the harder you try, the more elusive certain dreams seem.

What if it wasn’t all up to you? What if there was an easier way? A faster way? What if you were in cahoots with a power that attracted so much help and opened so many doors, it was like taking a worm hole through space and time into the world you really want for yourself.

Guess what? You already are.

You may call it your Divine Guidance. You may call it your inspiration, a gut feeling, an inner knowing, or even, serendipity. At it’s most realized, you literally have the power and wisdom of the entire Universe, at your service. Why not use this secret power more often?

Maybe because… there’s a hitch.

That hitch makes me an unlikely voice for letting “the Universe” help connect you to your bliss. For most of my life, bliss wasn’t even on my radar. I knew little of this thing called “help.” I trusted in my intellect, ate textbooks for breakfast, and struggled through life through sheer force of will.

Because here’s the thing: in order to tap into the infinite power of the Universe, to let it work for you and do what you can’t do for yourself, you’ve got to let go. You got to let go of always being in charge. And, it pains me to say it, but you’ve got to let go… of knowing everything.

Because as important as it can be to think through things, as awesome as it is to learn and use that good stuff stored in your non-trial-size noggin… your intuition/Divine Guidance/the Universe knows even more.

My brain vs. the Universe #1) How many solutions are there to a problem? GO.

Me: One. My solution.

Universe: Infinite, baby! The literally infinite possible arrangements of the vibrating energy strings, people, things and circumstances of the entire world of existence.

A couple of years ago, when Pamela (yes, the Soul Guide herself) was planning her first extended retreat, my own Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom suddenly popped up with: “We belong at that retreat.”

My response: “Look, I’m anxious in groups, I won’t know anyone but Pamela, and it’s on the west freakin’ coast–I can’t even cover the cost of the retreat, much less plane fare to California. Get real.”

I.V.C.W.: “Must. Be. At. RETREEEAT!!!”

Me: “Sheesh!”

I ended up joining the Retreat organizing team, and soon after, my folks offered me a free plane ticket! To Sedona. En route, suffering only mild heart palpitations, I did something I “would never do:” accepted the airline’s no-fee, extra-special, in-flight credit card offer. Using those bonus miles, I bought a ticket to California for $35.

That was just the beginning. Pamela’s retreat blew my modest hopes out of the wind-blown waves. I’d delayed my post-retreat return flight for a few extra unplanned-days (who IS this person?!), then became lulled into such a (strange) state of inner trust that I spent the entire wad of vacation money I’d scraped together on… a fancy hotel room.

What?!

My brain vs. the Universe #2) What’s the relative importance of things?

Me: “Should do’s” = important. Everything else = too bad.

Universe: Guess again, ‘social justice activist!’ You’re much more effective and useful when you’re happy!  This may involve blue nontoxic nail polish and kayaking with seals. 😉

“Fancy hotel room” made little sense to my rational self, who was leaning toward the $25 a night hostel. Instead, I skipped San Francisco, a car, even a taxi, hauling my suitcase on and off public transit ’til I found myself greeted by name (then and each time I walked through the front door,) at the adorable Spindrift Inn. And from the security of that canopy-bed, hardwood-floor, in-room-fireplace feeling of ‘home,’ I biked up and down the coast and went kayaking with wild otters and seals.

When I got home, my ex-boyfriend had taken a wall down in my house–as a favor. My bedroom came to resemble that boutique-hotel haven, and my life, that kayak adventure.

All this sounding a little too lalala for you? Wanna work a little harder for your bliss? No worries. Following your inspiration is not about avoidance or escapism. You may find yourself skipping steps or taking them out of order, yet working with an intensity that leaves your workaholic friends in awe.

Case in point: For years, I harbored a secret dream of being a speaker. However, with no best-selling book, million-hits blog, or Olympic gold medals, I wasn’t sure where to start. Then, last summer, I saw a call for speaker proposals for a nearby TEDx event.

Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom: “This is IT, you TED-talk-obsessed, slightly-New-Agey, idealistic brainiac! This is your chance! You can do this!!!”

Me: “You can’t just make shit up, and expect people to listen to you.”

I.V.C.W.: “You can try.”

I tried. And failed. To complete the application! Three weeks later, poking around the website, I saw there was still time, and I ground out a proposal that had a beginning, a middle, and, miracle of miracles, an end.

Getting chosen brought a brief moment of euphoria before the terror set in. For weeks, my room filled up with drafts, more drafts, tears, more tears, and more drafts. Finally, I drew the talk as a diagram on a door-sized piece of foam board, ended it with a poem (thanks, Don,) and scheduled five practice talks.

M first practice talk: Super! Bad! Four more later, I was live, mic’d up, being  videotaped, and in front of a TEDx audience. The talk worked. And as people came up to me after, I realized: ‘I am now a speaker.’

My brain vs. the Universe #3) What’s best way to get from A to Z?

Me: Start at A. Go to B. Then go to C. Get through this 26 times, and you might make it to Z.

Universe: Start at A, repeating it three times. Skip to M, then loop back to L. Next: rosebush. Now go to your niece’s band concert. BAM! You’re at Z, surprise! Hey, Q looks nice.

Your Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom may bonk you over the head. Or it may offer low-key guidance such as what foods to eat or how to lead your day. You may need to slow down and listen, write a dialog, or enlist a guide to your Guide. In fact, how do you know you are listening, and not just taking a misguided detour to hell?

Great idea for an another article! But here’s a hint: the voice saying, “If I don’t do this, then [disaster]” or “I feel like doing X because I’m too scared to do Y,” is probably not your Cosmic Wisdom. When partnering with the Universe, you may feel scared as a result of taking action (or of letting go of a “should do” action,) but fear is not why you’re taking the action.

You may feel thrilled, scared, confident, vulnerable, relieved, or even perplexed following your Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom. But if you slow down and listen in below the hubbub, you should discover a part of you that knows you’re on the right track — that inner “YES.”

This can carry you through when you really don’t know why you’re inspired to do something (and you’re friends and family are like, “huh?”) For example, I couldn’t run a quarter mile, and had no intention of doing so, when my Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom spotted photos of smiling faces from an all-women’s half marathon around Central Park.

I.V.C.W: “Wow. Running umpteen miles in NYC with thousands of actual athletes — wouldn’t that be an adventure! I wonder if, three months from now, I could possibly finish the race before the 4-hour cut-off!”

Me: “Yeah, nice pics. Too bad you hate running and you suck. (And how exactly would attempting said ‘adventure’ help me with my Real Concerns of building a business or finding a mate?) What is the point of me, a non-runner, slogging on for a giant bunch of miles and hours and weeks for a single event I have to pay for to endure and probably fail?!”

I.V.C.W.: STEP AWAY FROM THE BRAIN!

To my own constant amazement, I did do the slogging, the hours, and the race. Faster than I ever dreamed I could. And my time was nothing compared to this soul-opening insight: even my concepts about who I am (or am not: an athlete) might be up for grabs.

(Plus, if I hadn’t followed my Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom, I’d never have the stories for this article, or be entering it into a contest hosted by my favorite blogging guru/how-to website!)

So let’s review. But first, why not tap into this power right now! Pick one area of your life that feels a bit stale, stuck, or just not fan-freakin-tastic at the moment. Then take just *5 minutes* at the least–go ahead and set a timer–to try the following:

A) Start your 5-minute walk, meditation, or journal session by asking your inspiration/intuition/Inner Voice of Cosmic Wisdom for a fresh thought or action step. B) Listen. C) If you get something, take that step–no matter how irrelevant or miniscule it might seem. Share your results with Pamela and I! D) Do it again tomorrow.

And don’t forget these 5 keys to letting your ‘secret power’ do for your life what you can’t:

1)    Let go of thinking you know everything.

Explore, learn, get good advice, yes! And open up to having what you ‘know’ get turned upside down. Embrace your utter cluelessness in the face of the infinite Universe.

2) Let go of struggle.

This can be a toughie. (Irony noted.) Struggle rarely feels like a choice. How can you trust when your life is the pits?! Start by going easy on yourself. The opposite never works. Let go one day, and one burdensome thought, at a time. It’s not all up to you! Open up to help, to joy, to inspiration. Even if it seems far-fetched now, lean into your heart’s desire with affection, instead of despair.

3) Let go of expectations.

Plans are great. Make some. Start following them! And now open up to surprises. Let go of seeing things only at a certain scale. Open to small gifts. Open to greatness!

Even when things go awry, try not to assume they’re going wrong. Consider the beauty of the unforeseen twist.

4) Let go of control.

It’s not just dedication and skill that lead to greatness. It’s taking a risk and letting go that makes the great athlete, the great musician, the great leader, and the great life. Open to uncertainty. Open to your emotions. Appreciate the ride. The destination is mostly a decoy.

5) Let go of over-doing.

I can hear some of you taking charge already. “I need that inspiration, that cosmic partnership, and this is how I’m doing it, starting now!” Glad you’re excited but… relax. It’s not about pounding it out. Overwork or over-indulgence can be ways of avoiding yourself. And you can’t tap into what the Universe is trying to tell you, show you or give to you if you’re avoiding yourself. Open to spaciousness. Open to listening.

Don’t worry about missing an offer or a message from the Universe. It’s alright. It’s not going anywhere.

P.S. After my half marathon, I immediately signed up for more races, then was sidelined by knee pain. I was crushed. However, I rediscovered Pete Egoscue’s “Pain Free” on my bookshelf, and started doing the exercises.

Remarkably, the exercises are helping my bones actually move and re-align. My hips, knees, legs and even shoulders seem to be recovering from ‘imperfections’ I’ve had as long as I can remember. It’s like I’m actually getting younger. Now I thought that truly was impossible! Shows how much I know. 😉

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Sophie Somerfeldt is a community organizer, educator, coach,  artist, writer, speaker, and visionary. She lives in a home of her own design in EcoVillage at Ithaca, and recently founded joyconspiracy.net.

My Shocking Wedding Miracle (very personal)

My soulmate Mark and I celebrated our Sacred Union this past weekend.

It was a magical outdoor celebration at our home, with a team of helpers aged 7 to 87 who made everything happen; threatened thunderstorms that never came; and a simple ceremony with no officiant, just us and our guests speaking spontaneously from our hearts, to much tears and laughter.

But what touched me most was something quite shocking:

Tearing up at wedding…

Seeing my former husband Brian dance with my new husband Mark.

I watched in amazement as my two husbands embraced each other on the dance floor, and then took turns leading one another through spins and steps, laughing over the awkwardness of 2 hetero guys doing a partner dance…

Never, ever imagined I’d see such a thing!  Yet all the work we’d done to heal old hurts and transform old patterns was so profoundly, playfully and perfectly expressed by that awkward, lovely dance.

That’s why while the other dancers applauded, I found myself sobbing with gratitude and joy on a friend’s shoulder…

OK, Mark and Brian weren’t anywhere near as smooth as these guys, but you get the feeling:

 

What’s going on here?

I’m learning that when we share our love and light freely, without shame, we liberate everyone around us to express their love and light too.  (For me that often looks like tears running down my face and a red nose, but where I used to be embarrassed, now I relish the freedom to keep my heart open and be who I am without hiding.)

And this is where it’s all about YOU.

Dear beautiful Lights, we hold back so often — fearing we’re too much, or that it’s not safe to show our love!  The truth is you can never be too much, and it is always safe to show your love. (As a stranger once told me and Mark, “you’ll inspire the lovers, and stir up the haters”… and it’s all good.)

Have you noticed?  Our hearts long for permission to love fully and authentically – our dear ones, ourselves, Source, the earth, humanity, life itself…  It actually hurts not to express our love, which is why so many of us numb ourselves with addictions and distractions.

(Yes it can also hurt to open your heart and express your love — but it’s such a good pain, just stretching a tight muscle. ;-p)

What if you allowed yourself the courage to BE the love you are, unabashedly, today? Who would you reach out to? What would you do or say?  I am daring to do that in this moment:  I love you for reading this and maybe commenting below, for sharing my journey, and most of all for being the beautiful expression of Love and Light that you are. It is an honor to have you in my life.

And I’m going to continue celebrating and sharing the love over the next 30 days, with some special events and new opportunities for you as part of my beloved community. Looking forward to connecting with you!

 

Choose Your Path

The Magic of Gratitude and the Power of Choice

Yesterday I woke up very early, feeling full of fear and doubt. I lay in bed trying to calm myself down, trying to figuring out what I was afraid of and why I couldn’t relax and go back to sleep…. Boy, that sure didn’t help.

Finally I got up to do some journaling with my “trusted guidance,” which is the voice my soul uses to talk to me.  And what happened was so remarkable that I want to share it with you:

Direct from my private journal

Pamela Moss Pamela: I’m feeling fear and doubt and can’t sleep. Dear TG [trusted guidance], can you help? What’s going on? It even seems hard to connect with you…

soul guide symbol by Pamela Moss TG: It seems so. It is not.

P:  So please help me. What’s going on? What do I need to do to go back to sleep?

TG: You know the answer. Sometimes this fear and doubt is just an automatic reaction of your mind. You do not need to  ‘figure it out,’ it is simply a matter of being willing.  Are you willing to experience the profound love,  joy, peace, and harmony that is in your heart right now and always?

P: I want to say yes, but…

TG: What is the ‘but’? What do you have to lose?

P: I think it is a fear of trusting – feeling I must make something happen, I can’t just ‘trust’…

TG: Is that true?

P: No, I could just trust. I am doing all I can to make things happen, and they are happening… I just wish it were easier…

TG: It is easier. You have choice on what to focus on. You are arguing for your smallness and the Illusion. Wake up!

P: Thank you. I am awake.

TGReally wake up! Choose what you want.

P:  What I really want? [A rush of deep feeling…]  I want to love God – purely and completely. I choose to give my heart and my life to serve God in all forms Love leads me to. I choose to be authentic. I choose to be brave. I choose compassion for the human condition we are all born into — and I choose delight that I can divine love and harmony anytime I choose to.  

        I choose to expect goodness — what fun!  I am really taking that one on right now. I can’t wait to see what happens today; there are several beautiful opportunities that I know of, and I choose to expect unexpected goodness, too – surprise me!  Thank you, thank you!

      I choose the freedom to focus on all that is right, rather than what is wrong. I choose gratitude – I’m so grateful to have the capacity to choose! (And I choose to acknowledge David Mumm of PowerLearn.us for reminding me of the power of choice and his alphabetical affirmations. Thank you David!)

      I choose to trust that you are always there, dear TG, to guide and protect me. I choose that life is a magical adventure. I choose that it is in the highest and best good for all, especially me, to allow myself to trust, to love, and to enjoy the adventure!  I know everything can change in an instant for the better, anytime I choose. Thank you for that miracle!  

      And now I see the gift in my sleeplessness and fear and doubt – another opportunity to practice choosing, and experience this liberation. Thank you!!

TG: Can you now choose to trust that all is truly well, and go back to sleep?

P: I don’t know, I’ll check in with myself to see…

TG: NO, we ask: can you choose it?

P: Yes I can choose it.

TG: Is there any reason not to?

P: [on reflection] No. I choose to trust that all is truly well (and has been, and will be.) I choose as an act of trust to allow myself to relax and fall back to sleep – without effort or trying, just relaxing into the beauty and gratitude of choosing to trust. Thank you. I feel moved! 

And now I am moving myself back up to bed…  [Slept more soundly than I had in days, awoke totally refreshed, had a wonderful day.]

What is going on here?

On a profound level we are all, worldwide, at work on piercing through the veil of  Illusion (fear, doubt, shame, hatred, prejudice, all forms of separation) to remember our true unity and essential nature — the love, light and joy that glows like a jewel in our hearts. Every time each of us awakens to this truth we strengthen the energetic Grid of Light that helps us all grow, heal and evolve.

One of the easiest and most powerful ways to see through the Illusion right NOW is to combine the magic of gratitude and the power of choice.

You can do this as simply as 1, 2, 3:

STEP 1. Scan your thoughts, feeling, and body sensations to notice what is already there.

STEP 2. If what you notice does NOT make you feel good, tell yourself  “I am willing to experience something better” and see if you can allow that to be true. (If you can’t, just notice you’re not willing right now. You can always ask “please help me to be willing,” or try again later.)

STEP 3. If you are willing, actively CHOOSE it now. Write or say aloud, “I choose life is an adventure. I choose to be brave. I choose to be caring.” Feel the truth of each statement as you say it. (This shifts us from fear-and-struggle mode into Love, and changes our perception of reality in a moment).

Bonus: You can strengthen this shift by going through the alphabet — for each letter choose a virtue or possibility that enlivens you, and CHOOSE it. For example:

I choose now (or today) to be:

  • A   authentic
  • B   brave
  •   compassionate
  • D   divining love & harmony
  • E    expecting goodness
  • F    forgiving myself & others
  •   grateful

Try it out, and tell me what happens!

sunflowerAnd if you’re on Facebook, I invite you to join us in sharing what you are grateful for & what you are choosing!

http://www.facebook.com/possibilitypam

It’s truly inspiring and uplifting to participate in this 365 Days of Gratitude movement, even if you only read what others write…

And I’d love to hear from YOU.

With love and blessings,

Pamela's signature

Dr. Pamela Moss, The Soul Guide

Have you noticed that the old ways of doing things aren’t working anymore?

I sure have. In the past few weeks what’s worked before in my business just stopped working. I was stuck. Felt like a door I’d always been able to walk through before was now closed…

Why am I sabotaging myself?!” I  wondered, more and more anxiously.  “I need to make this work!!”

And I pulled out all the powerful tools I’ve learned to uproot limiting beliefs and soften subconscious resistance. But for the first time, my tools weren’t enough.

I stayed stuck. Just couldn’t get that old door to open.

So, feeling rather desperate, I tapped into my wonderful circle of support… and received a lot of  guidance and love, but still didn’t seem able to do what worked before and what I thought I had to do now.

So finally I gave up.

I said out loud, “OK, OK, it’s just not going to go the way I planned.   I get it.  I surrender!!  What now?”

Perhaps you’ve had a door in your life close, and you feel thoroughly stuck. You just can’t go on the way you have been. 

And then, if you allow it, another door opens.  And it’s much more beautiful…

That’s what happened to me.  The door began opening with a video that really inspired me:

Lily Yeh speaks at Bioneers Conference

Click here to see it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFJkbwFllWY&feature=related

In it international artist Lily Yeh — a remarkable woman who uses the arts to heal communities and create personal and societal transformation — shows slides of her work with ghetto neighborhoods in Philadelphia and genocide survivors in Rwanda.

As I watched Lily speak I felt so moved and inspired – and, truth be told, jealous. “I should be doing something like that!” my heart cried out.

(Seems to me that when we feel jealous, we’re really just seeing some of our own unfulfilled potential realized in someone else… and it hurts.  Jealousy is a wake-up call from the soul.)

Suddenly I remembered the dream I’d had when I started my business over 6 years ago, painting “Possibility Portraits” and leading vision board workshops.  Back then I wanted to do this work with women in prison, and homeless families, and opposing sides in war-torn areas — to help people who feel helpless and alone see their own light and divine potential, and also reflect it out to those who’d feared and rejected them, to heal them all. I imagined a book and a website where the whole world could see: we are ALL different expressions of the same Light, Love and Beauty, all reflections of one another, truly all ONE.  I felt sure this was a path to peace on earth…

But I was too scared and unsure of myself to take a single step toward this dream. So it was soon forgotten.

Artist and social change agent Lily Yeh in front of community art project

Until I saw Lily Yeh.  That’s what she was doing!

And now Lily Yeh is coming HERE, to my home town of Ithaca NY!  She’s giving talks on “Creativity, Transformation, and a Shared Prosperity” and — the part I’m especially thrilled about — leading a workshop for artists, teachers, and others who are excited about creating public art as a process of community building and empowerment that transforms whole communities.

I have a feeling that being there will change my life. If you want to join me (wouldn’t THAT be fun!), there’s about 20 places left:

“ART, TRANSFORMATION AND  SOCIAL CHANGE: Building community through self-expression, creative action, and finding communal voices”

A workshop with celebrated artist Lily Yeh

October 24, 2011 8:30am – 3:30pm

Cornell University, Ithaca NY
Fee: $40 (that’s all, & includes lunch! Some scholarships available too.)

In this workshop, participants will experience Yeh’s methodology, getting to know one another through a unique series of experiences that build connectedness utilizing individual and collective voices, and multiple modes of expression. This workshop will be hands-on, experimental, and participatory… helping people create a new, open space into which they can enter on equal footing, find their voices, and figure out innovative ways to work together. Thus, participants will experience community-building in the making.

If you’d like more info or to register, email me back at pamela@innervisionportraits.com and I’ll send you the flyer with all the details.

Registration Deadline is October 7

Love to play with you there!

And have you had this “door closes, another door opens” getting-unstuck-thing happen in your life?

I’m sharing from my heart here, and I’d love to hear your stories and what you think. Please comment below.


Thanks,

Pamela

P.S. Mysteriously enough, after I ‘surrendered’ and saw a new door I want to walk through in my work, the ‘closed door’ in my business opened up too… 

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